LIFE, KIND OR UNKIND?

I’m a bit prone to the blues, my grief gets so bad at times. I wonder why life is unkind to me, why my journey isn’t easy blah blah. I basically wallow in self-pity. During those times, it is an endless battle of doubts, fears and hopelessness. It is such a horrible thing to go through. I hit rock bottom sometime towards the end of last year then I made a profound decision.

It was a painfully slow journey to fight the currents of depression till I was able to get back up for air. I cannot give you the exact blueprint of how I did it. I do not have a specific guide towards overcoming melancholia but I’m going to try anyway.

First thing I decided was I couldn’t continue like this, I knew deep down that staying depressed couldn’t solve my problems. It was only going to push me into deeper problems. The turning point was the day suicide crossed my mind, it was crazy because it’s the most selfish thing ever and it’s the coward’s way out.

STEP 2; LOOK FOR AN OUTLET/VENT: Do not keep it all bottled up, you need to find an outlet. Depression itself stems from not dealing with minor fears, insecurities and letting them pile till they outweigh you.  My writing serves as a major outlet for me. I kept a diary as a teenager and it’s so much fun to read the things that bothered me then. So I made it a habit to keep track of major events in my life, feelings etc.

 If you’re a religious person, you could pray it out. Talk to God about the state you’re in, your lack of fulfillment, your confusion and all. He has perfect plans for you.

STEP 3; Make it a duty to live each day at a time: Do not bring the troubles of yesterday into today. See each day as sort of a new canvas and it’s up to you to paint a happy picture.

STEP 4; Get a hobby/skill/chore you’re going to immerse yourself into, preferably something that brings in money or improves a life somewhere. That way you feel more fulfilled that something is going right with you.

  

Lastly, keep an open mouth mind and eyes to all things beautiful like the existence of Jollof, grilled chicken and ice cream. These things make you believe that life is so much more beautiful. These past few weeks I have been quite fascinated with the skies, the way it can be so many beautiful colours at once, the way the sunset bathes it in an orange glow.

What I’ve noticed is the people around us most times can’t even tell, we fight our demons in private and usually appear as the life of the party outdoors. Well, I’m holding your hand virtually and saying “tomorrow will be better”.

Has life been kind or unkind to you? Share your doubts, fears and success stories. I’m here to listen and share.

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Hello... and all things in between

 Happy new month People of Kintriguesville. I know you've missed me a lot, right? I'm sorry I have been a bit out of touch. My sojourn has carried me to several islands but this will always be home.
I'm about to share something a tad bit controversial, I haven't even been able to sort out my train of thoughts concerning it.

I was about my business as usual in the pink store, then something caught my attention.

It was a really nice evening you see, The sky was all shades of blue, the clouds were a fluffy white. The sun was setting and a gentle breeze was ruffling the trees, stirring the grass and lifting hair light enough to be lifted. It was the perfect time to take a walk.

Soon enough, a couple was strolling, holding hands along my line of view, then the guy ran into an old friend just within my earshot (I swear I wasn't listening in). They talked animatedly for like 20 minutes, all of which did not include an introduction of his ladyfriend who was standing right there or even the merest acknowledgement by the friend.

"What sorcery is this?!!!" I thought to myself and my first reaction was "Captain! Grab your cape, let's rescue the damsel from this horror." But alas, the conversation ended, the couple locked hands and continued strolling as though all was well with the world.

As they will always tell me, "Bukunmi, see as you wanted to give yourself BP". I continued thinking it over and came to some mini-conclusions;

FIRST LINE OF THOUGHT
The friend might not be close enough to be worthy of the introduction, we all have that friend we run into once in a blue moon, we then catch up for a few minutes with promises that we'd stay in touch more but we both know it's until the next time we run into ourselves... So the friend could be one of those and the guy didn't see the point of an elaborate introduction.

SECOND LINE OF THOUGHT
It could be the other way round and the lady wasn't worthy of being introduced. Perhaps she doesn't have a title and she's just being led on. Harsh but very possible.

THIRD LINE OF THOUGHT
They could both be worthy of an introduction but the guy could be clueless and neither of them could suggest it.
Now this is an epidemic, we're all so socially ignorant nowadays, social etiquettes are almost non-existent. It's the social media age but we've all lost social charm. We are mostly at loss when we meet new people one on one, we end up fumbling our way through introductions and first time conversation till it gets really awkward. We'd rather just share IG,snapchat et al handles, ohhhs and ahhhs over followers,snaps, outfits or just blatantly ignore ourselves and stay glued to our devices.

So which of these lines seem the right one? Have you ever been in a socially awkward situation?  How'd you get out? Did you take the highway?

*Blowing you fairydust of peace, beauty and happiness*

  STAY IN TOUCH WITH "LIFE THROUGH MY WINDOW"
connect with me on instagram @the_oluwabukunmi.. I'm about that gram life
 Life,Love,Laughter and Sarcasm.